So, There has been a great deal of discussion in the cyber-world about what is/isn’t family ministry? There have also been many discussions on forums and on Facebook discussing the role of parents in the discipleship journey of a child. So is your head spinning? Mine has been.
My wife and I have been married since 1987, As a young married couple, we committed to each other to love and respect each other. As we watch others who are married today we are surprised at just how often couples can really break that covenant with each other. I promised my wife that no matter what happened in our marriage, I would never allow myself to verbally “wife bash” when I was hanging out with other guys. She too made this commitment, that when with other women she would not verbally disrespect me as her husband. It is a great feeling of love and trust that has been established over the years together and it has made our love stronger. By knowing that what we say to each other in person is what we describe to others behind our love ones back. I’ve been in the room when a guy will complain or make fun of something his wife has said or done, and while it may seem funny at the time, I know he’d never say those things in front of his wife, as he’d cause major damage to his relationship with her.
In a day and age where Biblical marriage is under attack, I believe it’s time for the church to become totally proactive in helping parents stay together. When marriages start falling apart in the church at the same or greater rates than the world, we should wake up and start doing something to stop it. I was recently at the Orange Conference where Doug Fields presented a challenging message to those of us in attendance to take back to our own churches a strategic plan to make sure our marriages were growing stronger. I’m thrilled that the ReThink Group has worked hard on a strategy to help churches do just such a thing. If you’d like to take a look at it you can find it here: